Are You Ready to Recalibrate the Holidays?
Happy Halloween! This is me at Trunk or Treat — our church’s party in the parking lot. It was awesome and I went as Mr. Panda Man. I met this panda compadre and many other cool characters.
As Halloween arrives, so does the holiday season. I’m not going to lie: I love this time of the year. Even with all its excess and hubbub, I just love it. But not everyone feels this way. Some people really struggle with the holidays, especially Christmas. If this sounds like you, or someone you love, help is on the way.
Loving My Actual Christmas
This is the title of a new book by Alex Kuykendall. In it, she sympathizes with us and invites us to recalibrate the season. I appreciated how Alex seeks to lighten our load and liberate us from undue stress.
Here is what Alex’s book made me think about:
- Neither You Nor Your Holidays Need to Be Perfect. I know this, in my head. But it’s easy to put too much pressure on ourselves or our loved ones to get along, to be on time, to come through for us. I want to love my actual Christmas, not a fantasy version of it.
- Watch Your Time & Money. Christmas can trigger out of control spending and overbooked schedules. This is easy to fall into and hard to overcome, but we must try. Alex suggests we learn to say “no” in order to carve out space to breathe. Yup. It’s about presence, not presents.
- Everyone Should Help Out More. Some of us roll in, plop ourselves down, eat, and go watch football. Alex gave me a window into my wife’s world. This dear woman does the heavy lifting to make the season bright for us all. I intend to step up my game to lighten her load.
- Be Grateful. We and our families need to learn contentment. And, yes, it is a learned thing. It’s not natural to be thankful, it’s natural to complain and demand more. Don’t be that way. Repent and thank God and others for what you do have vs what you don’t have. This isn’t just a holiday thing, but a year-round thing.
Tell Me What You Think
I want to prepare you for the holidays this year. The more proactive you are, the less overwhelmed you will feel. You can help me help you and others by sharing…
- What do you love about the holiday season?
- What’s hard about it?
- In my writing, who can I help and what do they need?
I enjoyed Alex’s book and we are going to make it our guide at church this year. You can get it on Amazon or wherever good books are sold.